Well didn't find it to exciting and chapter 12 was more of a review. I did like how they opened chapter 12 in they define, with several theories, why we go to work, what work means to us and how we choose our paths that we do. I found Super's Theory very interesting to me because this one really makes sense. Implementation, where in your early 20's you dabble in different jobs trying to figure out what ones you like, dislike, and others that you might want to make a career out of. Then by the mid 20, stabilization occurs and continues into the 30's. I took it as the more settling down and pursuing the career you want to go into. Then lastly there's consolidation that starts mid 30's and continues until retirement.
I see myself following this pretty dam well while others (like my brother who started a bit early and only dabbled with 1 real job before landing his career job) don't. But it seems to be a small few and not a giant few that do. I have had alot of jobs over the last 10 or so years and I end up quitting a lot of them because I don't like the company, the work, the lack of promotions/raises, the hours of work nor the pay, or the management.
Also being a girl I can relate to some of the readings in that we don't get the same job opportunities as men, nor the same pay. I have even come across some of it. I have been denied some jobs within a company because they say they are to dangerous for a woman and that only a man can do them (like forklift driving). I have also been in a situation of being sexually harassed as well. Sadly it didn't turn out that great and the upper management took the words of the store manager and assistant manager over mine, even though I had documentation of what was happening and other co-workers to back me up. The word was they were going to fire me for no reason what so ever (as Washington is a state where you don't need a reason) as I showed up to work every day, did my assigned duties, helped out others in the store, etc. So just to stick your neck out isn't a good idea because it might get chopped off. So hitting those kinds of ceilings suck or hitting biasness isn't good also (this also seems to come from people that have been around in the workplace for along time and don't want to or do need to adapt to the new age views of women in the workplace).
I have even been on the unemployment boat and wow what a shocker that was. I could so relate to what they were talking about. It's the most depressing thing that has ever happened to me! You send out resume after resume and got a lot of feedback from potential employers that I was over qualified to be selected for that job if I was selected at all. Went on countless interviews to only to have the interview person lie to me in that they would let me know what happens. So yah totally relate on how your mental and physical health suffer in that one.
Wednesday, May 29, 2013
Monday, May 13, 2013
Teenagers, Need I say more?
Wow depressing and yet very informative. I so skipped chapter 8 and started in on chapter 9. So I was scratching my head a bit about teenager development. I swore there should have been more in this book! But low and behold (after checking the syllabus like 3 times) there was mystery chapter 8! I found this one a bit depressing but a lot of it rings so true to any teenager or earlier in one's life.
Everyone went though the sex education class around the 5th grade (well I did) so some of this was a review on what changes happen. I found the part about a teenager starting her first period and how they throw a party down in the southwest very different. I am curious if that is because more Latinos reside in that area thus bring their customs and norms with them to celebrate this or if it's tied to a different culture. As for the rest it's the basic stuff we have heard over and over again. Yes we know that the United States is a FAT nation! We have some of the worst obesity rates in the world. But at the same time we have teenagers, I have to say mostly girls but there are more and more boys subjecting themselves to it as well, with eating disorders. It saddens me how our culture in America is so obsessed with how thin a person must be in order to be accepted! Teenagers are constantly bombarded with ads, subliminal messages, and more about how in order to be accepted first you must weight under 100 lbs. Look at the Vitoria Secret models, they are mostly skin and bones! The ads in the magazines that teenage girls read, Cosmo as an example, has models in there that are pencil thin (many of us know that these models are airbrushed to make them look perfect in every way but most teenagers don't think about that). Girls want that unattainable body and some go to extreme lengths to get it with eating disorders. This hit the biggest nerve with me because as a teenager I was never accepted by my mother because I was always over weight. I was never skinny enough for her and she constantly reminded me of it. I wish the media would change and America as well with their dangerous obsession with thinness and start accepting girls for being a bit overweight and let many more know that that model body is just fake and most of the time unobtainable.
Everyone went though the sex education class around the 5th grade (well I did) so some of this was a review on what changes happen. I found the part about a teenager starting her first period and how they throw a party down in the southwest very different. I am curious if that is because more Latinos reside in that area thus bring their customs and norms with them to celebrate this or if it's tied to a different culture. As for the rest it's the basic stuff we have heard over and over again. Yes we know that the United States is a FAT nation! We have some of the worst obesity rates in the world. But at the same time we have teenagers, I have to say mostly girls but there are more and more boys subjecting themselves to it as well, with eating disorders. It saddens me how our culture in America is so obsessed with how thin a person must be in order to be accepted! Teenagers are constantly bombarded with ads, subliminal messages, and more about how in order to be accepted first you must weight under 100 lbs. Look at the Vitoria Secret models, they are mostly skin and bones! The ads in the magazines that teenage girls read, Cosmo as an example, has models in there that are pencil thin (many of us know that these models are airbrushed to make them look perfect in every way but most teenagers don't think about that). Girls want that unattainable body and some go to extreme lengths to get it with eating disorders. This hit the biggest nerve with me because as a teenager I was never accepted by my mother because I was always over weight. I was never skinny enough for her and she constantly reminded me of it. I wish the media would change and America as well with their dangerous obsession with thinness and start accepting girls for being a bit overweight and let many more know that that model body is just fake and most of the time unobtainable.
Thursday, May 9, 2013
Hey All,
Yes I know this blog is several days late but I'm not caring at all at the moment. I read the chapter in the book, read the article, and browsed your guys' blogs and it just hit me! So now I am typing this out.
So the biggest thing that has struck me is the way parents discipline or don't discipline their kid(s). After reading the article about Parenting: The Lost Art, it hit me. Now adays many parents just make up excuses for their kids and don't do anything. I have recently ran into this. My old boss needed to find a place for her son to stay and I told her we could offer him a room in our house if it was okay. We all agreed on it and about a month into it her son went and stole my Xbox 360! I confronted him about it and he acted like it wasn't his fault and didn't do a single thing to rectify the situation. So I went and talked to his mom about it and all she could tell me it wasn't her son, her son is a good boy and would NEVER do anything like that! I just couldn't believe it! Granted the book aims for the teenagers and younger and he was 25 but it still lines up along the same talk.
I see that alot of parents don't want to be the bad guy so they might make the other half (mother or father) the bad guy in having them always dispense the discipline while they look like the cool parent in letting the child do whatever they want. Also the forms of discipline are very different. Depending on culture and how your parents were raised your form of discipline might be different.
My mother was the one that always dispensed all the discipline at my house and she would always beat the crap out of me (my brother was her favorite so he didn't get in as much trouble as I always did) and her word was always golden. She was the authoritative type parent. There was no questioning her, if you didn't like the answer you never asked "but or why" you just went with it or you would be beaten. It was the worst childhood ever. I have come out a different person and vow that if I ever have kids there will be no physical discipline in the house. I always found the more I got beat the more I wanted to rebel and the cycle kept going. I don't want to repeat that.
Just a little insight on spanking lol.
Yes I know this blog is several days late but I'm not caring at all at the moment. I read the chapter in the book, read the article, and browsed your guys' blogs and it just hit me! So now I am typing this out.
So the biggest thing that has struck me is the way parents discipline or don't discipline their kid(s). After reading the article about Parenting: The Lost Art, it hit me. Now adays many parents just make up excuses for their kids and don't do anything. I have recently ran into this. My old boss needed to find a place for her son to stay and I told her we could offer him a room in our house if it was okay. We all agreed on it and about a month into it her son went and stole my Xbox 360! I confronted him about it and he acted like it wasn't his fault and didn't do a single thing to rectify the situation. So I went and talked to his mom about it and all she could tell me it wasn't her son, her son is a good boy and would NEVER do anything like that! I just couldn't believe it! Granted the book aims for the teenagers and younger and he was 25 but it still lines up along the same talk.
I see that alot of parents don't want to be the bad guy so they might make the other half (mother or father) the bad guy in having them always dispense the discipline while they look like the cool parent in letting the child do whatever they want. Also the forms of discipline are very different. Depending on culture and how your parents were raised your form of discipline might be different.
My mother was the one that always dispensed all the discipline at my house and she would always beat the crap out of me (my brother was her favorite so he didn't get in as much trouble as I always did) and her word was always golden. She was the authoritative type parent. There was no questioning her, if you didn't like the answer you never asked "but or why" you just went with it or you would be beaten. It was the worst childhood ever. I have come out a different person and vow that if I ever have kids there will be no physical discipline in the house. I always found the more I got beat the more I wanted to rebel and the cycle kept going. I don't want to repeat that.
Just a little insight on spanking lol.
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